Don't Be A Flightless Fowl!!!

Are Your Beliefs Helping or Holding You Back?

As we move towards 2015 it is a good time to review those core belief's that we hold near and dear to our hearts. 

The holidays can be stressful, but you can get your mindset on your side and use it to control a lot of the internal stress that may begin to occur. 

Enjoy the holidays and move confidently and safely into the new year!

Self-Belief: 7 Tips to Get Your Mind on Your Side

Self-belief isn't optional. It's vital. Think of all the things you haven't accomplished or tried because you didn't have enough belief in yourself. Self-doubt will always creep in at times. That's why it's so important to have an excess of belief in yourself.

Create a reserve of self-belief and you really can accomplish nearly anything you can imagine. What would you do if you believed you could do essentially anything? How would your life be different? How would you feel?

If you need a little more faith in yourself, read on:

1. Examine your beliefs. You weren't born with any limiting beliefs. You learned every single one of them. We all learn to limit ourselves unfairly. Give yourself the credit you deserve.

* Think about the limiting beliefs you already have. Do what you can to discard them. Ask yourself if this limiting belief is really legitimate. Where did it come from? What evidence do you have that it simply isn't true?

2. Give yourself an unlimited number of opportunities to be successful. It's easy to be filled with doubt if you think you only have once chance to get it right. Give yourself permission to "fail" as many times as necessary. Learn something from each attempt. This is a great way to build self-belief.

3. Eliminate self-criticism. As soon as self-doubt starts to invade your thoughts, ask yourself where that inner critic is coming from.

* Are you channeling a negative experience from the past?

* Is the source of this criticism credible? It rarely is.

* It can be challenging to quiet your mind, but that doesn't mean you have to let it drag you down. Focus on positive self-talk.

4. Trust and love yourself. For one month, try being your best friend instead of your worst enemy. How do you treat your best friend or your children? Probably a lot better than you treat yourself. Give yourself the gift of kindness.

5. Coach yourself. Everyone needs a little support and encouragement. So when you find yourself struggling, consider what you would say to someone that you really believed in if they were feeling the same way you are. When self-doubt starts to creep in, take a few minutes to coach yourself.

6. Think about how you would like to act. Think about how you would think and behave if you were full of self-confidence.

* You can effectively borrow traits from others, too. Who are some of your heroes? Sometimes it easier to imagine others dealing with a situation than to imagine ourselves. See yourself acting the way your hero would act.

7. Remember all your past victories. We've all accomplished some pretty impressive things, but we're quick to forget them. Grab a pen and some paper and list all the successes you've experienced in life, no matter how great or small.

* If you need help, ask a trusted friend or family member. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Self-belief isn't about becoming arrogant or turning a blind-eye to one's flaws. The belief you have in yourself needs to be focused on what you wish to become. You can have weaknesses. Everyone does. But there is value in being relaxed about your weaknesses and working to strengthen them.

A strong belief in yourself is a sure ticket to reaching great success. Build your self-belief and seemingly impossible tasks can become routine.

The Champion's Mindset program is a short term training program that gives you the nuts and bolts information that you need to turn your mindset into the launching pad of your success!

Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem: We All Could Use A Little More!

Just added a couple of new programs over at our little Amazon site. This little site was set up so that our visitors can access some of the programs and products that we have talked about in a trusted setting. By setting this up, our visitors do not have to wade through the whole Amazon site to find the programs and other items that might be of interest (No huge time suck!)

Two new Self-Improvement programs have been added. 

Brian Tracy – The Unbreakable Laws of Self-Confidence – How to Tap the Infinite Potential Within – Motivational DVD Training Video

Jack Canfield – Peak Performance Principles – How to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Discover Your Purpose – Personal Development DVD 

Both Brian Tracy and Jack Canfield are tops in their field of helping us become the very best that we can be. These DVD sets let us access this top notch training at a fraction of what it would cost to attend the event live.

Any way, jump on over and see if there is anything that might be of interest as we move towards the shopping season!

Are Your Loved Ones As Self-Confident As They Could Be?

The Functional Self Confidence program is an online resource full of both new and time tested information centered on the subject of personal self confidence and how it relates to your core well being. 

In this program you can learn about ways to finally develop and shape your personal level of self confidence and equally, if not more importantly, teach your loved ones to do the same in ways you have only dreamed of. 

Teach your loved one how to banish self doubt once and for all!

The Functional Self Confidence program:

Learn Why Being Emotionally Resilient Is A Strength That Can Be Developed.

We want our loved ones and ourselves to be able to bounce back from the challenges that life throws at us and we know it will. So how do we show young people that they can continue to move forward? (Lets face it, the "teen" years can be filled with drama!) 

Looking at it as a skill that can be learned and practiced is a great place to begin, so lets get started!

What Is Emotional Resilience?

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Are You Sure That They Are NOT Being Bullied?

Being Bullied as a child carries life long consequences for some Victims

Don't let your loved one become another Bullying statistic. No one is showing our children how to address the situation, so weather we feel ready to discuss it or not, it is time!

Have you gotten your free copy of Bully Buster? Click on the Link below, it will give you the information you need to discuss this critical topic with those that need it the most!

Remember, Bullying does not stop at the playground. Playground Bullies grow up to become Workplace or Campus Bullies. 

Teach your loved ones how to deal with Bullying in a realistic manner that is both effective and non threatening.

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Don't Wait, Tomorrow May Be Too Late!

It Is Possible To Have Too Much Self Confidence

Self Confidence Is Not All Consuming!

Granted more often than not we are trying to improve someone's self confidence, but there are those individuals that need to have their self confidence pulled in a little. Let's face it, being over confident can allow us to put ourselves into situations that we are not prepared for yet!

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The Functional Self Confidence program gives parents and other concerned adults the ability, information and confidence to really show their loved ones, young or older, how to approach life with a more balanced level of Self Confidence.

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Positivity is highly under rated!

It can be hard to remember the big difference that we make in the lives of others. When we lead by example others naturally know that we care enough to "walk the walk".

Here is a little video with some thoughts and affirmations about being the best mentor and leader you can be!

Personally Positive Affirmations- 1.2

Never forget that you touch the lives of those around in many different ways. 

Be aware and be mindful!

Positive Affirmations Series #1: Positivity

Positivity, some days is harder to hold on to than other days. If that is the case for you, here is a small but significant reason to keep a close watch on your sense of positivity!

You might want to check out the Champion Mindset Course to really move your self confidence up several notches!

Learn When to Embrace Your Strengths if You Lack Self-Confidence

How to Embrace Your Strengths if You Lack Self-Confidence

Having challenges with self-confidence can be intimidating. But it doesn’t have to ruin your ability to go after great opportunities. In fact, by embracing your primary strengths, you can develop the self-belief you've always yearned for.

Use these strategies for embracing your strengths and put your confidence issues behind you:

 Highlight your positives. Regardless of your challenge with self-confidence, you can always find things you.....

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What It Takes To Achieve A Sense Of Emotional Well-Being!

Essential Secrets to Emotional Well-Being

 Your emotions help dictate your state of mind. This means that to keep your state of mind intact, it's necessary to have emotional balance. That way, you can make it through even the toughest times.

You can enhance your emotional well-being, so when challenging times come around, you'll be more prepared to handle them!

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7 Ways to Keep Your Attitude Humming Along!

Breath!

Are You Brave Enough To Pursue Your Passion?

Finding and Pursuing Your Passion IS NOT Easy!

It takes courage and commitment!

Following your passion brings personal power and awakens yourself to the beauty of the world. It leads you to the heart of spiritual journey as it changes your thoughts, perceptions, and feelings. Finding your passion does not promise an easy life rather a rich life open to hopes and possibility.  

1. Speak your truths clearly - To find your passion you must speak your truths and ready yourself to new adventures. Know what really matter to you? What truly makes you happy? Know the things you do best and makes you feel complete. 

2. Be open for support - You must also keep in mind that you are not an isolated being – you need the support of family, friends and positive-minded social circle that will help you reach your goals. 

3. Open up your senses - When you open up your senses, you tend experience God’s blessings and you feel more peaceful and serene. This allows you to be more patient and be reminded the cycle of nature. When you experience this you become more positive and calm. 

4. Give yourself a time for pleasure - Waking up in the morning away from busy schedules and having the freedom to do the things that brings you pleasure? To find your passion you must allow yourself a time for pleasure. For many people, allowing pleasures induces guilt as it is not productive and hinders you from getting important things accomplished. But this view of pleasure is actually a matter of opinion. Gentle pleasures are good to your health and are productive. By allowing yourself time for pleasure you become more focused and passionate in your job. 

5. Liberate yourself - A person who finds her passion is a truly wise person. Doing a work that reflects your personality and values promises you a lifelong happiness and contentment. It is easier and liberating when we accept who we are and we allow other people to accept us too. The human psyche is a holistic system, to numb one part of our being is to numb the rest and create constant struggle (Finding Joy, 15). 

6. Feed yourself with affirmations - Affirmations are important in finding your passion in life as it makes you feel secure and optimistic about reaching your goals. A lot of people don’t get to their destinations out of fear of failure. You should allow yourself to get upset by some downturns but remind yourself to pull yourself together past and get on track again. Some people might influence you into thinking negative. It’s not so easy to shut them out of your life. But it’s easier to practice blocking the negative energies that they bring into your life. It keeps your sanity. 

Finding your passion is an endless song. When you do the things that you are passionate about you allow you let your life to flourish. You let yourself connect to everything you are – in mind, in heart, and in spirit. You are a stronger that can face challenges better because you are reinforced by being able to do the things you love. You feel more alive, positive, self-respecting, and determined. You live your life with confidence and high morale. And you feel you are contributing goodness and positivism to the people in your life.  

Free Positive Mindset Course

On the fan page for safekidznow, there is a free Positive Mindset Course available. If you would like to sign up for periodic updates you can submit your email address, but there is no charge  for the video course.

Our mindset/ attitude are one of the major things that we have complete control over, barring of course, any medical issues. It is the whole half full half empty agrument. 

This video course looks at some of the issues involved as well as how to break free of the negative cycle that will set in if allowed.

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Stop Shooting Yourself In The Foot!

Self-sabotage could be defined as deciding you want something and then making sure it doesn’t happen. Have you ever found yourself close to achieving a goal, only to throw it all away at the last moment? Did you look back later and kick yourself for being so foolish? Most of us have.

Why did you do this? There are several possible explanations, ranging from a need to control the situation to feeling......

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Learn the secrets that ALL results driven professionals use to get Focused, Get Better Results, and Have More Quality Free Time in Just 10 Minutes a Day

One of the main causes of being stressed out in the office is the lack of time for other important things outside work.  

It is important to remeber that you have control over time and that you can maximize to achieve your daily tasks, and still have precious time for yourself and your family. Are you practicing the principles that will streamline your day and free up time?

Stress Management and Time Management Principles:

KNOWING THE TIME WASTERS - recognize which activities waste your time. Where are the time suckers in your day! Don't concentrate anymore on what is unimportant and and irrelevant.

FOCUS ON PERSONAL PRODUCTIVITY- check your schedule, you may get clues as to where you're losing precious time. It could be unclear assignments or poor scheduling.

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Over on I Luv Safekidz, a fan page on Facebook is running a free video course on developing and keeping a Positive Mindset! (As we all know, that can be challenging at times!)

You might want to check it out pretty quick, it doesn't look like the type of course that will be offered for free very long. This is part of a program launch special, so grab it while you can!

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Managing Personal Stress

A Quick Overview On Dealing With Personal Stress

In today’s day and age of hectic lifestyles and always being on-the-go, stress seems to be a constant companion for most people.  Stress is the culmination of reactions you have when you are dealing with more than you are used to dealing with.

 

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The reactions stem from the hormones that your body produces when it feels that pressure.  

These reactions can include a quickening of your heart rate, faster breathing, and a sudden burst of energy.  This culmination of reactions is often referred to as the “fight-or-flight stress response.”  In short, brief periods, this response is actually quite helpful to deal with important situations, such as a big project at work or a family crisis. (Or a Self Defense situation!!!)

However, experiencing this stress reaction too often can lead to bad effects on your health and your life.  This is what many people experience nowadays in our hectic, fast-paced world, and thus have to come up with measures to deal with that stress.  We will examine some of these measures below.

When you are feeling the stress reaction too often, you can experience such physical discomforts as headaches, an upset stomach, nausea, back pain, and insomnia.  Additionally, your immune system can be compromised and weakened, leaving you more prone to becoming ill from various microorganisms such as bacteria and viruses. 

If you are dealing with health complications (such as heart disease or diabetes, for example), repeated stress can make these complications even more severe.  

Oftentimes, you will find yourself more tense, irritable, and depressed.  As a result, your relationships with family, friends, and co-workers can suffer, and your performance at work and/or school can also suffer.

Stress can be a major problem for people who often have to deal with it.  In order to manage this stress and not allow it to ruin their relationships and work/school performance, they have to learn to manage that stress.  They need to figure out exactly what is causing this repeated stress, determine ways to manage that stress, and enact healthy ways to reduce or eliminate that stress.

Especially in our world today, the lack of time for completing the activities we need to get done for work and/or for our families can often lead to stress.  


Therefore, one good way to reduce or eliminate stress is to manage our time better. 

A good way to improve our time management skills is to make a schedule and stick with it to the best of our abilities.  By doing this, we’ll still be able to accomplish what we need to accomplish, yet have the opportunity to relax with loved ones and/or by ourselves and do an activity that is enjoyable, which can also help to reduce and eliminate stress.

Stress is a part of our lives, especially in this hectic day and age.  

While stress in limited quantities can be helpful to improving our performance over the short-term. Long durations of stress can be detrimental to our work/school performance, our relationships, and our health.  By determining what is causing our stress and taking steps to reduce or eliminate the causes of that stress, we can do a better job of handling the stress that comes our way and, accomplish the tasks we need to accomplish, and still be able to enjoy fun activities (i.e. “downtime”) to help maintain a relatively stress-free, normal life.

Emotional Resilience: Do I Have To Be A Super Hero?

What Is Emotional Resilience?

Emotional resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. More resilient people are able to "roll with the punches" and adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties; less resilient people have a harder time with stress and life changes, both major and minor. It’s been found that those who deal with minor stresses more easily can.....

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Talking Treasure: Stories to Help Build Emotional Intelligence and Resilience in Young Children

Did I Mention.....

People who learn to maintain an optimistic attitude may not only avoid depression, they may actually improve their physical health

Do you know someone who seems to always have a smile and a positive thought? Or are you yourself one of those people who is full of optimism? Hardships are seen as ‘learning experiences’ by optimists, and even the most miserable day always holds the promise for them that ‘tomorrow will probably be better.’

If you always see the brighter side of things, you may feel that you experience more positive events in your life than others, find yourself less stressed, and even enjoy greater health benefits.

The Benefits of Optimism

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Resiliency

Emotional resilience is partially inborn, but it can (and should) be learned and developed. If you’d like to be able to handle life’s challenges (both major and minor) with greater ease, to grow from adversity, and to turn potentially negative events into positive ones, the following steps can help you to become more resilient to stress.

Here's How:

1. Develop The Right Attitude
Resilient people tend to view life’s difficulties as challenges and respond accordingly with action, rather than with fear, self-pity, blame or a "victim mentality." While life can be very challenging, an important step in becoming more resilient is to develop positive self-talk and to remind yourself that you are strong and can grow stronger and more wise as you handle life’s challenges.

2. Become Aware
Part of resilience is emotional awareness; it’s important to understand what you’re feeling and why. Sometimes people feel overwhelmed with their emotions, and this frightens and immobilizes them. Knowing why you feel upset can provide valuable information about what needs to change in your life. It’s also important to do research on how to meet the challenges you face. Maintaining a journal can help you explore your inner world and come up with a plan of action.

3. Develop An Internal Locus of Control
Resilient people believe that they’re in control of their lives, and it’s true: while we can’t control our circumstances, we can control how we respond to those circumstances, and that makes a big difference in our attitudes and in the course our lives take. Fortunately, you can develop an internal locus of control.

4. Cultivate Optimism
Being an optimist is more than looking on the bright side (though that helps). It’s a way of viewing the world where you maximize your strengths and accomplishments, and minimize your weaknesses and setbacks. Developing a more optimistic world view can help you become more resilient.

5. Rally Social Support
While we ultimately face our own challenges, a supportive friend or group of friends can help lighten the load. Those with strong networks of social support tend to stay healthier and happier throughout life, and tend to cope well with stress. Conversely, those with little support may find themselves more vulnerable, and those with conflicted and unsupportive relationships tend to fare even worse.

6. Maintain Your Sense of Humor
If you’re able to laugh at life’s frustrations, you can have increased immunity, if you will, to stress and adversity. Those with a sense of humor about life tend to experience life as less stressful, are able to bond with others during difficult times, and experience the numerous benefits of laughter. If you can take a step back from difficult situations long enough to maintain your sense of humor, you will be more resilient, too.

7. Exercise
Yes, you read right. Exercise has been correlated with stronger levels of resilience. This may be due to the effects of endorphins on one's mood, or the physical health benefits to those who exercise, or both. Regardless, adding a regular exercise habit to your lifestyle can benefit you in more ways than one.

8. Get In Touch With Your Spiritual Side
Studies have shown that those who are more spiritual tend to be more resilient as well. This doesn't mean that you can't be resilient if you are atheist or agnostic. But if you are open to it, reconnecting or strengthening your connection to your spiritual side can provide you with strength.

9. Don’t Give Up
While many people know of coping strategies that can help with stress, as with diets and exercise programs, the most successful individuals are those who maintain the effort for the long term. Don’t give up on your situation; don’t stop working toward getting through it. Trust the process.

Action Tips:
1. Be patient with yourself, and just do your best.

2. Invest in yourself! Learn how to develop the mindset that will keep you functioning at your peak level of performance, both mentally and physically!

Champion's Mindset

It seems like some of our loved ones live to be unhappy! It does not have to be that way!

Optimistic Kidz: Not Only Possible, But When Coupled With A Strong Sense of Self Confidence, They Are Unstoppable!

The benefits of optimism and self confidence have been proven many times over by research.

Optimists enjoy better health and increased longevity over pessimists, experience less stress, and achieve more in life. While much of our personality traits are inborn, you can influence your child’s tendency toward optimistic or pessimistic thinking: optimism can be taught! 

Difficulty: Average
Time Required: 18 Years (Yeah, its a long term game!)

Here are some ways you can help instill this valuable trait and raise the optimistic child:

Try This:

1. Help Them Experience Success: Children develop self-esteem and optimism by experiencing success, even in the face of some challenges. So, starting young, let your child do things for themselves (with you in a supporting role rather than doing for them), and acknowledge their success. For example, even if it takes more work on your part, allow small children to take on household responsibilities like sorting socks, putting their toys away, etc., and acknowledge their efforts.

2. Give Credit For Success: When your child faces a success, help them see how they contributed to it, and label those actions as strengths. For example, “You did well on your test. You’re really smart!” or “You’re a hard worker to have been so prepared!” You don’t need to tell them something’s great when it isn’t (children can sense false praise), but giving them credit for their own accomplishments builds self-efficacy and contributes to optimism.

3. Look For Future Success: When dealing with successes, focus on what traits in the child made the success possible, and examine other successes that can come from these traits. Going back to the example of the high test score, you may mention that the strong work ethic and intelligence that went into the successful test can help them reach other goals. You might explore what some of their goals for the future could be, whether it’s to be an astronaut or to do well in college.

4. Don’t Praise Indiscriminately: Optimism researcher Martin Seligman believes that telling a child that everything they do is great—rather than helping them experience real successes and persist in the face of reasonable obstacles—puts the child at a disadvantage, creating an overly strong self-focus and actually making them more vulnerable to depression! So validate that success, but do acknowledge when their efforts aren’t successful as well. Children learn to see through empty praise.

5. Validate, But Question: When your child faces failure or negative situations, validate your child’s feelings, but ask questions that can cause them to see things more optimistically. For example, if another child doesn’t want to play with them, talk about their hurt feelings and let them express themselves. Then ask what other friends they may want to play with. This helps them process (rather than deny) their emotions, but puts the situation in perspective.

6. Remember Success in the Face of Failure: When things go wrong, acknowledge your child’s feelings, but also help them focus on other successes they’ve had, look at how things can go better in the future or under different circumstances, and move on. For example, “I see you feel disappointed in your score. Maybe you’re having an ‘off’ day. You usually do better, and I’m sure you’ll do great next time.” And then get involved in another activity, or practice for future success.

7. Look For “Opportunities To Improve”: One tenet of optimistic thinking that parents may take issue with is where optimists downplay their responsibility where failure is concerned. While it does instill optimism to look at external circumstances that may have contributed to things going awry, it’s okay to also assess what your child can personally do in the future to do better next time. Just approach it as ‘looking for opportunities to improve’ rather than a self-blame session for your child.

8. Look For The Bright Side: Help your child see that there is good and bad in every situation, and make a game of looking for the silver linings in seemingly negative situations. For example, if your child can’t play outside because it’s raining, look at the positives of indoor play, or project what success may come from having extra time to study. Even a broken leg can bring the fun of having friends sign the cast! The game can get silly, and that’s okay, but it’s a good practice to get into.

9. Don’t Use Negative Labels: Correct unacceptable behavior, but don’t label your child with negative labels—ever! Children tend to live up—or down—to our expectations, so if you say, “Jack’s our whiner,” or “Lucy’s our shy child,” what may have been a passing phase becomes a more permanent identity. This is much more damaging to a child’s self-concept than some parents realize, and it perpetuates the very behavior you find so objectionable!

10. Make an Example of Yourself: Children watch us and see us as constant examples, whether we like it or not. The good news about this is that we can teach by doing. Practice optimistic thinking yourself. When you achieve success, don’t downplay it with false modesty, but give yourself credit for a job well done. When things go wrong, don’t catastrophize; put things in perspective.

None of these are exceptionally hard. What's hard is getting into the habit of doing them on a regular basis. I found the hardest thing to do was to not down play the fact that I had done a good job on something. I didn't want my guys to go around bragging about what they had done. The truth is, its not bragging if you did a good job and take credit for doing it. It feels good to be acknowledged by others, its validating. Teach your loved ones to accept credit when it is due.

If your loved one seems to be focused on the bleak side of life, adult or child, take a minute and check out the Positive Mindset Course. Its free and it will get sent to your inbox, so no huge hassle associated with it.

Kidz Need to Feel Good About Themselves

Self image and self esteem, frequently go hand in hand. If our young people do not feel good about themselves, how can we expect them to make good decisions? 

That includes them knowing that they need to play and get more exercise and physical activity into their day. That is a tall order for any of us. What we want to keep in mind that we want to accomplish this in a way that keeps them interested enough to keep them active and engaged.

Yeah, right!......   At times it feels like trying to keep our loved ones and ourselves on any kind of regular workout program and schedule is nearly impossible. Check out this new video series - Functional Family Fitness Series (playlist) - this might get a few ideas jumping around to keep things fresh.

How To Boost Self-Esteem While Disciplining Your Child

Functional Self Confidence is a very important skill set to have. Not only for us as adults, but for all of our loved one's as well! 


We must teach our children how to develop the unshakeable self confidence that will carry them successfully through life.


Never forget, we are our children's role model!

What Is Self-Esteem

What Is Self-Esteem And Why Is It Important For Children?

Self-esteem is comparable to self-worth, which essentially means how a person values himself or herself.  A person can think highly of himself or herself and be self-confident in their skills and in their ability to adapt.  

Conversely, a person can be down on themselves and doubt their skills along with their ability to adapt. 

There will always be times when a person’s view of oneself changes if they experience a lot of successes or failures. It is only human nature to question whether they have made progress or if they regressed when a string of successes or failures occur.  However, oftentimes, the way a person will view themselves will be pretty constant, and this view is usually molded in childhood.

A child who is encouraged often about their skills and their ability to learn and adapt will often develop a positive self-esteem about themselves. This includes how they view their skills and their ability to adapt to challenging situations.  This skill set is essential in life because, life throws many “curveballs” that you cannot really predict ahead of time. 

You have to be able to adapt quickly to each situation using the information you have in hand to make the best decision possible.  This is how, often, the best outcomes can be reached.  Those children who have positive self-esteem usually turn into the adults that can more easily adapt to life’s challenging situations the easiest.

Conversely, kids who are usually not encouraged about their own skills and their ability to learn and adapt will often find it difficult later in life to overcome challenging situations.  This can be problematic for these adults because life is challenging at times for everyone; virtually, no one escapes life without some unexpected challenges thrown their way.  

However, there are times when kids are encouraged by their parents or caregivers, yet still develop low self-esteem because they doubt their abilities.  This can be because they feel that they don’t do a certain subject or task as well, or just feel socially awkward toward other people their age (i.e. feel shyness).  Therefore, it’s not always due to a lack of encouragement by the parents or caregivers; sometimes, kids just happen to develop low self-esteem.

As you read above, it is vital for kids to develop the life skills needed to handle life’s challenges that will come their way as they grow into adults. This includes moving out of their parents’ homes, getting a job and starting a career, falling in love and raising a family of their own, etc. 

It’s easier to handle these tasks when they are starting with a healthy, strong self-esteem, and this is more likely to occur if they start developing that self-esteem while they are children.  Once life’s other challenges come into play as adults, it’s much harder to gain that stronger self-esteem as an adult (though not impossible).

Therefore, parents should be supportive and willing to allow their children to make mistakes and explore their abilities, including mentally, physically, emotionally, artistically, etc.  This will help them to learn what skills they are best at and where they can use improvement, to which the parents can help encourage them to improve those areas. 

Having a healthy self-esteem is key to handling life’s challenges more easily.  Developing that healthy self-esteem as a child tends to lead to adults who can more easily handle life’s challenges when it comes to home life, career, love, and more.  Parents can help put their children on the right path by being supportive and helping them explore what skills they are strong in and what skills they can improve upon at an early age.

Developing a healthy level of Self Confidence will go along long ways in helping our loved ones live a life that they can be proud of and enjoy! As adults we know this, but the sad part is that many of us also suffer from a low level of self confidence and self esteem. 

The Functional Self Confidence program will help our young people develop the self confidence and self esteem that they will need to be successful in life. Check out the full story here!

The Champion's Mindset is geared towards adults with the idea that they will in turn pass this valuable training on to their loved ones. 

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How Parents/Caregivers Can Help Their Children Develop A Positive Self-Esteem

Helping your children develop a positive self-esteem will help them immeasurably throughout their school years and later in life as a working adult.  However, it can be difficult for parents or caregivers to know exactly what to do if their children are experiencing self-esteem issues.  The following information should help you to improve your own skills in helping your children develop a positive sense of self-esteem.

When your child doesn’t succeed at accomplishing a goal, it may be better to appreciate the effort that he or she put into the activity rather than setting up expectations that you expect them to succeed at that goal in the future. 

For instance, if your daughter didn’t make the cheerleading squad for the upcoming football season, you don’t want to say, “Well, you’ll work even harder next year and make it.”  That will just set up more pressure on her to make it, and if she doesn’t, then the regret from not making the team could be even worse than it is now.   Try saying, “Even though you didn’t make the team, I’m proud of your effort” instead.

You could even add that, “I would not be good at all of the athletic routines you have to do,” just to show that you are not perfect at everything; this can help your child to know that it’s okay to not be good at everything.

You should do everything in your power to show yourself as a positive role model.  Like it or not, you are a role model to your children; therefore, it is vital that you have an upbeat, positive attitude, even toward yourself when you can’t do something. 

You want to remain upbeat so that your kids will see and emulate you in that regard; if you are always degrading yourself because you can’t do something, your kids are more likely to emulate that behavior as well when they can’t do something.

Be sure to recognize the inaccurate statements your child makes about his/her own abilities and address them in a positive fashion.  For instance, your child may do very well in school, but may struggle with spelling.  Your child may get frustrated and say something such as “I am not good at spelling; I’m a terrible student.” 

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You, as the parent, need to show that that is absolutely a false statement, as your child will start to believe that they can never be adequate or good at spelling.  You can respond by saying, “You do a great job in school in many subjects.  Spelling is just a subject you’ll need to put some more time into.  I’ll help you with it.” 

This is a positive, uplifting way to help your child realize that a seemingly impossible challenge can be overcome if you take a different approach to the problem (i.e. do more work toward it) and get help with it (i.e. you, the parent, assisting your child with it).

As you can see, there are many things you can do to help your children in developing a positive self-esteem.  We know that having children develop a positive self-esteem will serve them well in life, both as they go through school and as they become a working adult in the world.

 

Pay attention to the manner in which your children are speaking by identifying key phrases. You will have the ability to pick up when they are not telling the truth about their abilities. It is important for you to maintain a positive and upbeat attitude when this happens. This way you can show your children that it is okay not to be great at everything.

All that is needed is an adjustment in their approach to a seemingly impossible challenge. This way they can find a way to overcome any challenge and this will be a valuable skill for their success later on in life. 

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The bad guys in life focus on victems that display timid behaviors. The bullies assume that victems with low self esteem will be less likely to fight back. Our young people must be prepared to address the bullies and predators that will cross their paths. Give them the skills they need to be safe in an increasingly unsafe world!