How To Boost Self-Esteem While Disciplining Your Child

Functional Self Confidence is a very important skill set to have. Not only for us as adults, but for all of our loved one's as well! 


We must teach our children how to develop the unshakeable self confidence that will carry them successfully through life.


Never forget, we are our children's role model!

What Is Self-Esteem

What Is Self-Esteem And Why Is It Important For Children?

Self-esteem is comparable to self-worth, which essentially means how a person values himself or herself.  A person can think highly of himself or herself and be self-confident in their skills and in their ability to adapt.  

Conversely, a person can be down on themselves and doubt their skills along with their ability to adapt. 

There will always be times when a person’s view of oneself changes if they experience a lot of successes or failures. It is only human nature to question whether they have made progress or if they regressed when a string of successes or failures occur.  However, oftentimes, the way a person will view themselves will be pretty constant, and this view is usually molded in childhood.

A child who is encouraged often about their skills and their ability to learn and adapt will often develop a positive self-esteem about themselves. This includes how they view their skills and their ability to adapt to challenging situations.  This skill set is essential in life because, life throws many “curveballs” that you cannot really predict ahead of time. 

You have to be able to adapt quickly to each situation using the information you have in hand to make the best decision possible.  This is how, often, the best outcomes can be reached.  Those children who have positive self-esteem usually turn into the adults that can more easily adapt to life’s challenging situations the easiest.

Conversely, kids who are usually not encouraged about their own skills and their ability to learn and adapt will often find it difficult later in life to overcome challenging situations.  This can be problematic for these adults because life is challenging at times for everyone; virtually, no one escapes life without some unexpected challenges thrown their way.  

However, there are times when kids are encouraged by their parents or caregivers, yet still develop low self-esteem because they doubt their abilities.  This can be because they feel that they don’t do a certain subject or task as well, or just feel socially awkward toward other people their age (i.e. feel shyness).  Therefore, it’s not always due to a lack of encouragement by the parents or caregivers; sometimes, kids just happen to develop low self-esteem.

As you read above, it is vital for kids to develop the life skills needed to handle life’s challenges that will come their way as they grow into adults. This includes moving out of their parents’ homes, getting a job and starting a career, falling in love and raising a family of their own, etc. 

It’s easier to handle these tasks when they are starting with a healthy, strong self-esteem, and this is more likely to occur if they start developing that self-esteem while they are children.  Once life’s other challenges come into play as adults, it’s much harder to gain that stronger self-esteem as an adult (though not impossible).

Therefore, parents should be supportive and willing to allow their children to make mistakes and explore their abilities, including mentally, physically, emotionally, artistically, etc.  This will help them to learn what skills they are best at and where they can use improvement, to which the parents can help encourage them to improve those areas. 

Having a healthy self-esteem is key to handling life’s challenges more easily.  Developing that healthy self-esteem as a child tends to lead to adults who can more easily handle life’s challenges when it comes to home life, career, love, and more.  Parents can help put their children on the right path by being supportive and helping them explore what skills they are strong in and what skills they can improve upon at an early age.

Developing a healthy level of Self Confidence will go along long ways in helping our loved ones live a life that they can be proud of and enjoy! As adults we know this, but the sad part is that many of us also suffer from a low level of self confidence and self esteem. 

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The Champion's Mindset is geared towards adults with the idea that they will in turn pass this valuable training on to their loved ones. 

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How Parents/Caregivers Can Help Their Children Develop A Positive Self-Esteem

Helping your children develop a positive self-esteem will help them immeasurably throughout their school years and later in life as a working adult.  However, it can be difficult for parents or caregivers to know exactly what to do if their children are experiencing self-esteem issues.  The following information should help you to improve your own skills in helping your children develop a positive sense of self-esteem.

When your child doesn’t succeed at accomplishing a goal, it may be better to appreciate the effort that he or she put into the activity rather than setting up expectations that you expect them to succeed at that goal in the future. 

For instance, if your daughter didn’t make the cheerleading squad for the upcoming football season, you don’t want to say, “Well, you’ll work even harder next year and make it.”  That will just set up more pressure on her to make it, and if she doesn’t, then the regret from not making the team could be even worse than it is now.   Try saying, “Even though you didn’t make the team, I’m proud of your effort” instead.

You could even add that, “I would not be good at all of the athletic routines you have to do,” just to show that you are not perfect at everything; this can help your child to know that it’s okay to not be good at everything.

You should do everything in your power to show yourself as a positive role model.  Like it or not, you are a role model to your children; therefore, it is vital that you have an upbeat, positive attitude, even toward yourself when you can’t do something. 

You want to remain upbeat so that your kids will see and emulate you in that regard; if you are always degrading yourself because you can’t do something, your kids are more likely to emulate that behavior as well when they can’t do something.

Be sure to recognize the inaccurate statements your child makes about his/her own abilities and address them in a positive fashion.  For instance, your child may do very well in school, but may struggle with spelling.  Your child may get frustrated and say something such as “I am not good at spelling; I’m a terrible student.” 

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You, as the parent, need to show that that is absolutely a false statement, as your child will start to believe that they can never be adequate or good at spelling.  You can respond by saying, “You do a great job in school in many subjects.  Spelling is just a subject you’ll need to put some more time into.  I’ll help you with it.” 

This is a positive, uplifting way to help your child realize that a seemingly impossible challenge can be overcome if you take a different approach to the problem (i.e. do more work toward it) and get help with it (i.e. you, the parent, assisting your child with it).

As you can see, there are many things you can do to help your children in developing a positive self-esteem.  We know that having children develop a positive self-esteem will serve them well in life, both as they go through school and as they become a working adult in the world.

 

Pay attention to the manner in which your children are speaking by identifying key phrases. You will have the ability to pick up when they are not telling the truth about their abilities. It is important for you to maintain a positive and upbeat attitude when this happens. This way you can show your children that it is okay not to be great at everything.

All that is needed is an adjustment in their approach to a seemingly impossible challenge. This way they can find a way to overcome any challenge and this will be a valuable skill for their success later on in life. 

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The bad guys in life focus on victems that display timid behaviors. The bullies assume that victems with low self esteem will be less likely to fight back. Our young people must be prepared to address the bullies and predators that will cross their paths. Give them the skills they need to be safe in an increasingly unsafe world!